Author: Phillip

Honesty, Open-Mindedness and Willingness

According to recovery literature, honesty, open-mindedness and willingness are three key essential traits necessary in the individual to bring about recovery from addiction.  When we talk about honesty in this sense, we not only mean being honest with others but, being honest with oneself.  The type of honesty necessary for recovery is not superficial honesty. 

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The Twelve Traditions

The Twelve Traditions can be found on page 561 in the 4th edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics anonymous.  The traditions are to the group as a whole, as the steps are to the individual.  They are what holds this fellowship together and provides guidance when differences occur in the fellowship.  They are usually

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Resentment

The word resentment comes from a Latin word which means to re-feel.  Isn’t this what we are doing when we have a jumble of resentments in our mind?  The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous on page 64 states that resentment is the number one offender.  From it stem all forms of spiritual disease.  It goes

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How Quickly Should I Work the 12 Steps?

The 12 Steps should be worked as quickly as possible based on rigorous honesty and thoroughness.  They are to be worked under the guidance of a sponsor, closed mouth friend or a member of the clergy.  Thoroughness is to be of paramount importance when taking these steps. The Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book equates our work

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Step 4

Step 4 is usually considered as the bogeyman by people who haven’t taken it.  No, it is far from that.  It is in this step that we start to digest large bits of truth about ourselves.  This step takes courage and willingness to be successful.  But we are not alone in our journey.  We have

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Live and Let Live (AA Slogan)

When I look at “live and let live” I hear it telling me to mind my own business.  I tell people that I work with in the program that their business ends at the tip of their nose.  Alcoholics are notorious for having a solution for everyone else’s problems, except their own.  We tend to

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First Things First

First things first are learning about how to prioritize things in our lives.  Being an addict and in recovery the first necessary thing is sobriety.  We must first obtain sobriety and then maintain it through a program of your choice.  It is very helpful to have a sober network of individuals that you can call

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Holidays

Holidays can be stressful days for some addicts.  Memories of past holidays may come to mind.  These memories may be before the addict became addicted.  Childhood holiday experiences which include relatives are prevalent.  In our addiction we may have become estranged from the family pictured in the memory.  Loved ones may have loved ones may

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Easy Does It

What exactly does this slogan mean?  However, we could better start our discussion with what it doesn’t mean.  It could be a paraphrase of “do not put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” Addicts are known for procrastination when it comes to performing common tasks or carrying out responsibilities.  It has been said

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Gratitude

If there is a silver lining to be found in addiction recovery it is surely gratitude.  We are often directed to make written gratitude lists by our sponsors.  By looking at what we are grateful for on paper helps to change our mindset about what is going on in our lives.  We can be grateful

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