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What If?

I have often wondered if something so terrible could happen where I would relapse with drugs and alcohol.  Something such as my daughter being seriously injured or my mom passing away.  Those are my big two what ifs.  Well recently the phone rang on a Sunday and it was the hospital calling me to tell

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Loss of a Friend

Recently the Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous lost one of our most hard-working and loving members.  His name is Deandre Moore.  Deandre was a larger-than-life type of person.  He grew up in the Watts area of Southern California.  I met him in 1994 when I moved to Lancaster, California.  I started going to AA meetings at

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Jaywalker

My favorite character in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous is the “Jaywalker.”  His story can be found on pages 37-38 in the Big Book.  The Jaywalker’s penchant for jaywalking is an analogy to the escalation of our drinking.  Just as the Jaywalker progresses in his disease of jaywalking, we progress in our drinking career.  

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There Is a Solution

After we have admitted our powerlessness over drugs and alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable, and saw how we needed to believe in a Higher Power who could alleviate the insanity we suffered, we came to page 25 in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.  The first full paragraph starts out in italics. 

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Faith

  Faith can be defined as hope in something not seen.  It can also be defined as complete trust or confidence in someone or something.  Faith is a necessary component of the 12 Step program.  After being beaten under the lash of addiction and finding ourselves at a crossroads in our life we must make

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Sloth

Sloth is usually equated with laziness.  This is very true.  However, it could be said that it pertains more to procrastination than just plain old-fashioned laziness.  Addicts and alcoholics are notorious for being procrastinators.  In active addiction, the only thing on their agenda is the next drink, pill, or fix.  Nothing gets in the way

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Greed

Greed is another thing which besieges mental health sufferers.  We want more than our fair share of something without having to put out any effort to get it.  We feel a sense of entitlement to things of this world.  Greed is usually associated with money but there are all types of greed.  We can want

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Envy

Envy is another one of the Seven Deadly Sins that causes a lot of grief for alcoholic/addicts.  We squander time and energy obsessing over the possessions of others.  We also do this same thing with things we think we should have.  We don’t stop to realize that maybe that person with the big house that

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Department of Children & Family Service Cases

People coming into the DCFS system who had had their children removed from their home are rightfully bewildered and confused.  Even in justifiable cases of removal it is still a traumatic event.  Removal of the children is necessary at times to protect their wellbeing.  At other times the removal can be an error on the

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Step 5

Step 5 reads as follows “Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”  This is where we share our written inventory with our sponsor or a closed mouth friend.  Some people may want to share their inventory with someone in the clergy.  The point is to share

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