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Self-Seeking Will Slip Away

The next promise we are going to look at Is “self-seeking will slip away.”  This could mean that it is not all about me any longer.  While drinking one may say that everything, we did was focused on what we could get out of it.  The thought of how our actions and attitudes could affect

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Situations

Another promise states “we will intuitively know how to handle situations that use to baffle us.”  This promise was especially as I felt that I couldn’t handle anything.  For the last ten years of my drinking and using was totally irresponsible when it came to handling situations.  I ignored and detached myself from things that

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Outside Help

Some of us may need to see a mental health professional.  Our brains have been trained to think in all sorts of negative ways.  We may feel a tug of war going on in our minds.  This can prove to be a formidable battle and we may need additional help outside the AA venue.  Some

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Sex

Now About Sex………. “Many of us needed an overhauling there (Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous pg. 68).”  Needless to say, alcohol lowers our inhibitions.  We find ourselves in all kinds of clandestine encounters with others.  Many of us become downright promiscuous.  The Big Book states that: ‘we are not the arbiter of anyone’s sex conduct

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Personal care and Responsibility

Many of us while active in our addictions may become somewhat removed with keeping up personal grooming and hygiene.  This can have a very negative effect on our mentality and how we view ourselves.  When feeling the effects of the highs and lows of our addiction we may become more disheartened by the way we

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Fear brought up in step 4-5

Fear can be something that touches about all areas of our lives.  The Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book states on page 67 that “it was an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through with it.”  This created circumstances which brought negative issues into our lives.  The fears could be real or

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Service

Just what is this AA “service” that we hear talked about and why is it so important?  First of all, the word service is on one side of the AA medallion triangle.  The other two sides say unity and recovery.  Being of service in the 12-step program means helping another alcoholic or addict to achieve

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Folklore

It is quite common in 12 step settings to hear “no romantic relationships for the first year.”  They’re lots of reasons that this may be a good practice, which I will discuss.  However, this admonition is nowhere to be found in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.  For myself I allow the Big Book to

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Traveling While Sober

One year a while ago I had the pleasure of travelling the United States for a year.  Previous to this in sobriety I was able to visit Hawaii.  We went to meetings from Seattle to Maine to Florida and back to Southern California.  The only states we missed were Montana, the Dakotas and Alaska.  In

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Nutrition

Here is something almost none of us pay attention to while we are drinking and using. That something is our nutritional needs. Back in the day dinner consisted of a bag of Doritos and a 12-pack. If it was a choice of how much money we had we would forgo the Doritos. Our whole life

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