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No Matter What

Back in the day you heard this phrase much more often than you do now.  I remember the first time I heard it I thought it was pure genius.  What a concept!  I don’t have to drink no matter what!!?? I have had lots of no matter whats throughout my sobriety.  The reason I stay

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Relapse

In our circle of recovering addicts, we often hear talk of relapse.  All kinds of strange theories have evolved around this event.  Some say the addict hasn’t hit their bottom yet.  Others may say that they weren’t quite ready to remain sober. The plain and simple truth is that the addict just simply chose to

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Willingness is the Key

Recovery literature generally describes willingness as being indispensable to achieving sobriety.  Just what does this mean?  It means that we are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve sobriety.   It means letting go of many lifelong assumptions and beliefs in order to follow the new principles and guidelines we are learning in our recovery

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Open Mind, Open Heart

Many of us when new to recovery discover that our hearts and minds have been closed due to adverse events in our lives. Toxic relatives, other people, situations and life in general have caused us to place our hearts and minds under lock and key to avoid further injury.  Some of this may have justifiable

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Picking Your Battles

Picking your battles implies letting go of instances in which you would usually feel slighted.  This may seem like you are sanctioning the particular behavior from the other.  This is far from the reality of picking your battles.  By ignoring the verbal exchange completely, you are using a behavior tool known as extinction.  This is

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Picking Your Battles
Gratitude

Gratitude

When all else fails make a gratitude list.  Sometimes we just get bogged down in our lives.  We may have too much on our plate at times.  We may not know how to prioritize what to do first.  The best thing to do at times like these is to pause and take a step back

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Change

The only thing certain about change is that it is sure to happen.  Major changes must be made at the beginning of a sober life.  The first change is sobriety itself: freedom from all mind-altering chemicals including alcohol (we are not referring to prescribed medications).  It goes without saying that sobriety is a must as

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Change
“This Too Shall Pass”

“This Too Shall Pass”

Newly sober addicts will probably find a myriad of situations suddenly requiring their attention.  These types of situations can be relational, financial, work-related, health concerns, loss of a career, divorce or separation, homelessness, legal issues, and many other types of difficulties.  It may appear to the addict that he has entered a long, dark tunnel

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Self Care

Many of us while active in our addictions may become somewhat removed with keeping up personal grooming and hygiene.  This can have a very negative effect on our mentality and how we view ourselves.  When feeling the effects of the highs and lows of our addiction we may become more disheartened by the way we

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Self Care